ThrEeality

I forgot about this letter…

To my handsome, handsome son….

My oh my how you’ve grown! I can’t believe it’s already been 3 years since your dad and I found out you were coming into this world! I’ve loved every minute of it. Although, I’ve also dreaded every minute of it. The thought of you growing up and getting more independent scares me. But at the same time, I can’t wait to continue to teach you things. And watch you and your dad’s relationship grow throughout the years. I love watching you and him together. He adores you! More then you’ll ever know.

Although we still have years before you start hitting milestones. I can already picture them everyday. I was watching you play today. And all of a sudden I had a picture of you and your dad walking the school hallways for your first day of kindergarten. Then I pictured you coming home from middle school saying you need help with a science project. Then, suddenly, your on the football field determined to help make the last win of your high school career. Then you just graduated college and your telling us you’re getting married. Then in a blink of an eye, I’m a grandmother. I know, I know, I’m being very dramatic seeing how you’re only 2. But I couldn’t help myself. I saw all of it clear as day as if I knew exactly everything that was going to happen. And goodness, you’re a handsome gentlemen when you’re older ;)

I hope that we have one awesome relationship throughout the years. There are so many things I want to teach you and help you with. I want to witness your dad teaching you the rules of baseball. I want to teach you the value of what you have, instead of being upset with the things in life you don’t have. I want to teach you that friends come and go, but your family will always be by your side. ALWAYS! You’ll need to know that respect goes beyond being kind to your elders – it also includes property, people in general, animals and even yourself.

You’ll have a lot of relationships in your life. Don’t take advantage of them. Always listen without judgement, criticism or offering solutions to problems, this is a guaranteed way to show someone you care. Always be respectful of the ladies. And please always kiss and hug the important women in your life hello and goodbye. That shows that you’re a perfect gentleman. And that you love your momma :)

Please always remember your oma, opa, papa and grandmama. They won’t always be around. I didn’t have grandparents growing up. And you already lost one grandma. I know it’s not the ‘cool’ thing to do, but spend all the time you can with them. They are wonderful role models.

There isn’t such a thing about being too polite. You can never say, “please, Thank you or excuse me too often.

Always, always, always choose to be happy. You can be happy if you just let yourself. And never settle. You deserve so much more than that. Dream BIG and follow your heart. Never stop dreaming baby, never.

You’ll also need to know more practical life skills :) Like knowing that there is more to cooking then opening up a can or microwaving old pizza. (I had to learn this so you do too!!) Papa will teach you how to change a flat tire like he did with me the year I turned 16.

We’ll need to teach you to drive responsibly and to be acutely aware of the consequences of drinking and driving, even if you are only the passenger. Remember, your dad and I were young once too. We know what goes on. But nothing is more important then you and your friends’ lives. Don’t risk it. You want to experiment a little, okay. We have all been there. But call your dad and I if you need a ride or if you EVER get into trouble. We might be mad at the time, but I don’t want you to ever think you can’t call or ask for anything.

And of course Dad will teach you how to barbeque the perfect meal. How to keep the perfect budget for your needs and any question you have about the 49ers. So you have one full life ahead of you mister :)

But the most important thing is that you find some sort of a relationship with the Lord. You’ll always have ups and downs in your life with or without him. But let me tell you from experience, you’ll get through all of it so much better with him by your side, step by step. And build your marriage around him too and I promise you’ll be extremely satisfied and happy in your life.

There are so many things I want to teach you son and this list grows with each passing day. I want the best for you, as any parent does. I occasionally need to remind myself that you are your own little person on your own journey in life.

How I see my role as a parent — I’m here to guide you, teach you and make sure you are well equipped with the skills, knowledge and common sense to survive and thrive on you own once they leave home. Time will tell if I’ve done my job well.

I love you more then all the stars and the moon baby boy. Please never forget that.

I pray for you every night my love…..

with so much love it hurts,

momma